The very first step in building relationships is creating trust. In order to do that, I applied one of the methods that Robin Williams used with Mat Damon in the movie Good Will Hunting. I shared with her stories from my personal past in order to open up and let her know that I trust her so she can trust me back. I have learned over the years that trust is reciprocal; it is not a one-way street. Another important element of building relationships is consistency; both in your behavior and frequency of reaching out to your mentee. These two base elements have helped me create a storng begining with Cami.
This blog describes my journey throughout the semester with my mentee, Cami Tran.
"There is no more noble occupation in the world than to assist another human being--to help someone succeed"
-Alan Loy McGinnis
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
STEP 1: First Meeting - Creating a Shared Vision
Today was my first meeting with Cami. It was very nice to finally put a face to the name. Before meeting Cami, I made sure not to commit some typical mentoring mistakes we learned in class; acting like somebody you are not, constantly talk about myself, and most importantly, not being genuine. I decided to start the conversation by first introducing myself and sharing with her a little bit about my background. She then told me all about herself. In short, Cami is from Portland, Oregon and she is in her second semester of Hospitality and Tourism Management. She is a part time student at SDSU since she is still taking some classes at Grossmont College. She is currently working as a sales associate at Express in Fashion Valley. This experience has helped develop and strengthen her interpersonal communication skills and has helped her learn how to provide satisfactory customer experience. We then talked about the classes that I am currently taking and the ones that she is taking. I gave her some tips as to which classes I think she should take next semester and I recommended a few professors I personally like. I asked her what her career goals where and I was pretty impressed that she had her mind set on either being a caterer or opening her own cafe shop. One year ago, when I was in her shoes, I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to do with my life. Her current goal is to find a hospitality related job in order to start getting to know the language and feel the exciting energy of this industry. I really enjoyed meeting Cami and I feel like we are going to get along just fine. One thing I really tried to stress to Cami is that if she needs help with anything, she can come to me and I will gladly to my best to help her or answer any questions she might have on a specific project or class. Our collective vision for this project was for both of us to gain the most out of this experience. Our goal was for both of us to learn from each other.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Getting Started...
Today we got the list of the mentor pairings. My mentee is Canilia Tran. At first I was hoping to get someone I know so things wont be so awkward, but then, the thought of building a new relationship with a complete stranger was very exciting. I had never seen or heard anything about Canilia. I am also afraid that she might have more experience in the hospitality field or be more involved in the program than me. If that is the case, I have no idea how useful I can be to her as a mentor. After clearing this thought out of my mind, I sent her an e-mail that day to say hello and introduce little bit about myself. I also gave her my availability so we can set up a time to meet each other. She texted me back the next day with her school schedule. I then called her and we set up a meeting for February 15 at the wooden tables near the Love Library.
My personal goals for this project are:
My personal goals for this project are:
- Meet with Cami at least twice throughout the semester.
- Stay in contact with her through e-mails, text, and Facebook.
- By the end of the semester, develop a relationship with Cami in order to keep mentoring her and giving her advice on her questions and concerns.
The first step is to get in touch with Cami in order to set a date where we can meet each other. My plan is to meet with Cami at least two times during the semester. Then, I plan on staying in contact with her so our mentor/mentee relationship will strengthen. I hope that by the end of the semester I will be able to help Cami or give her advice on a certain matter.
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